By Dame Kaz
Do you want it?
I’m talking about writing, of course. 😉 Dame Devon’s excellent post yesterday about success got me thinking about this.
WANT. It’s almost a dirty word, to some people. It’s about expressing our desires and whether we’re talking about writing fiction or events in our ‘real lives,’ desire is a powerful force.
If you’re stuck in your writing, as I was during my late twenties and early thirties, one way through the swamp is to figure out what you really want. Our ‘wants’ show us the way out, because they express who we truly are and what we really desire. Nobody gets unstuck without first making a commitment to wanting. Even if that commitment is nothing more complicated than: I want to feel better. Or: I want to write. I want to be published.
In January 2007 I made a commitment of my own. I expressed a desire and so far I have taken one step after another towards that desire in the past two years. I’m not talking about goals here. I think wanting is different. You need to define the ‘want’ before you can set goals. At the beginning of 2007 I said: I’m miserable. I’m not writing and I should be. What happened to that teenager who wrote every day? What happened to that young woman in her early twenties who wrote short stories and even began submitting them?
Somebody asked me: What do you want?
And I knew immediately: I want to write and I want to be published. I even want to make this work for me as a career, one day.
Too many people I know never actually say what it is that they want. It can be scary, putting it out there and maybe thinking that you’ll be laughed at. Or accused of being selfish. Or patronized. But it’s so important to say what you want – if only to yourself – in order to move forwards and stop feeling stuck.
Once I openly stated the desire, only then came the task of setting goals. But that’s a whole other story! Wanting comes with two important and distinct parts – expressing the desire, then putting it into action. Affirmations can be helpful in supporting our desires, but they’re not enough on their own.
In celebration of us stating what we want from our writing lives, I’m giving away two books to one winner. I have signed copies of the first two books in Rachel Caine’s Weather Wardens series, Ill Wind and Heat Stroke. I met Rachel at an event last week, and she’s an amazing lady – so down-to-earth and fun and kind. Yes, I am officially a fan! 🙂
If you’d like to win both books, just leave a comment on this entry by the end of the day Saturday May 30th 2009. I’ll announce the winner here on Sunday 31st. If you want to openly share something you really want in your comment, that’s cool. Um… but keep it clean, okay? *g* Writing ‘wants’ especially welcome! But you don’t have to – any comment saying you’d like to be entered is fine.
The giveaway is open to all.